How to Prevent and Overcome Sexual Sins

Jesus Christ has the answer for those struggling with sexual sins, “one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin” (Heb. 4:15). God’s will is for your holiness, your sanctification, and that you abstain from sexual immorality knowing how to possess your own body in holiness and honor, and not be inflamed with lust (1 Thess. 4:3-5). Christ can help you with every sinful and addictive behavior. His words are freely provided in the Bible. This article specifically addresses what dozens of books and websites have not done to provide the knowledge necessary to stop this prominent sin. Keys to overcoming immoral sexual behavior are presented here from God’s Word. This article defines what is sexually immoral, and what are the causes and answers to sexual temptations.

Even in a life wrapped in prayers and scripture reading, many have found themselves enslaved to a behavior that they do not want and even despise.How to Stop Porning While some Christians may not struggle with sexual temptations as though they have a low desire or fulfilling marriages, many struggle with uncontrolled sexual desires. Urging someone to read more, be saved, go to church, and stop sinning are ideal things to do, but sometimes, believers can still miss how to overcome temptations. Facing sexual temptations are still thought to be inappropriate to openly address at some churches, but the necessity of teaching on this subject is clearly seen upon the apparent sexual immorality facing the Church from the 1st century unto today (1 Cor. 5-7).

The man who can honestly say that he has never been tempted to lust after a woman is rare. Just as rare is the woman, who can say that she has not been tempted to romantically fantasize about another man, real or invented. There is not really any one particular person or generation to blame besides ourselves. Yes, it would have been nice to have been isolated and kept from exposure and even abuse to such sins. Still, we must hold ourselves responsible.

What is sexual immorality? Sadly, many justify sexual sins and irrationally explain away the definition of sexual immorality. Yet, Christians need to have a clear awareness and strong conviction, so that you abhor this evil (Rom. 12:9). Jesus has a very clear definition of sexually immorality. First, Jesus defined marriage as one man and one woman as created by God (Mark 10:6-9). All sexual immorality is behavior outside of the design of one man and one woman becoming one flesh. God’s design for marriage can be clearly seen in nature by that only a man and a woman are made to become one, and marriage is only natural to mankind showing the Creator or an evolution.

When Jesus spoke of adulteries, fornications, and lewdness being “evil things” that defile people, Christ knew what He meant (Mark 7:20-23). Adultery is engaging in sexual behavior with a married person, and Jesus said that adultery includes divorcing and marrying another person except for one’s spouse being sexually unfaithful (Matt. 5:32, 19:9, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, cf. 1 Cor. 7:10-11).

Christ also spoke against lewdness, which His Spirit defined to mean to “allure through the lusts of the flesh” (2 Pet. 2:18, cf. Luke 17:1, Jas. 1:13-14). To cause others to lust through tempting speech, revealing clothing, and nudity, this is lewdness. Remember Jesus’ words that out of the heart proceed evil things like evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, covetousness, and lewdness (Mark 7:20-23). Regarding sexual immorality within the heart, Jesus taught to not look to lust (Matt. 5:28). Looking at another person with an inflamed craving and lust is adultery in the heart. Jesus said in Mark 7:20-23 that what comes out of a man’s heart defiles him (cf. Matt. 15:19-20). Jesus said, “And I say to that every person looking at a woman with covetous lust for her has now committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matt. 5:28). Spouses are hurt by their mate’s lusting for others as though that lust is not actual adultery (1 Cor. 7:1-9).

Now, consider the definition of fornication from the Greek word porneia. This evil behavior is all sexual intercourse outside of marriage between one man and one woman (Mark 10:6-7, cf. 1 Cor. 6:16, Eph. 5:31, Heb. 13:4). Procreation according to God’s design shows us that families are built by the sexual intercourse between one man and one woman, but people also have the ability in this fallen world to pervert natural desires into strange lusts. Jesus did not have to specify what He meant by fornication and lewdness by a descriptive list, but it is evident that rape, incest, and homosexuality are such immorality being outside the natural union of marriage between a man and a woman. Jesus condemned pedophilia when He opposing the abuse of children (Matt. 18:7-10, Mark 9:42-50).

Jesus openly used the definition of sexual immoral behavior according to the Law of Moses when Jesus spoke to those who were under Moses’ Law. Within the Law of Moses, immoral sexual behavior is listed consisting of adultery, extra-marital sex including premarital sex, incest, rape (pedophilia), sex during menstruation, homosexuality, bestiality, prostitution, and uncovering nakedness (lewdness) (Lev. 18, 19:29, 20; Deut. 22:5, 22-30). There should not be any debate concerning what is sexually immoral. As apparent by design within nature, any sexual activity outside of the unity of flesh between one woman and one man is unnatural (Rom. 1:24-32).

The Cause: “What is happening to me?!” How can someone become enslaved to a sin that a person does not want to do? If you feel enslaved and feel like you cannot control your sexual behavior, the Bible talks about such enslaved behavior. This enslaving behavior is the same as an addiction or compulsion. Sexual immorality is a sin against one’s own body giving one’s desires and mind to compulsive desires (1 Cor. 6:15-20). Jesus said, “The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Mark 14:38, Matt. 26:41). Many, who are caught in sexual sin or any habitual sin, relate to these words: “For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do” (Rom. 7:15). The problem is that sin is dwelling within one’s flesh, and that person cannot find how to perform what is good (Rom. 7:17-20). No one can overcome indwelling sin without the indwelling Spirit of God. See, there is a way of escape for all (1 Cor. 10:13). Therefore, “Escape sexual immorality!” (1 Cor. 6:18, cf. Gen. 39:8-13). “Can we continue in sin that grace may increase? Certainly not!” (Rom. 6:1-2a). “O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?” (Rom. 7:24).

The Answer: The Spirit of Christ says, “Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh” (Gal. 5:16-17). God’s Spirit commands that we be filled with the Spirit (Eph. 5:18). This is our choice and our action. Many are deceived to think they are filled with the Spirit when they continue to sin. Therefore, a Christian must open their eyes to see the victories and conquests that he or she has had over sins when walking in the Spirit. They should be attentive and reproduce that pattern of living everyday. Therefore, fill your life with Christ, His life, His words, His love, and His commands given to His Apostles and prophets found in the scriptures (cf. Col. 3:16, Eph. 3:3-5). These are all from the Spirit of God. Walk in Spirit, and you will have the fruits of the Spirit, which include self-control (Gal. 5:22-23). Be diligent to grow in the virtues of your faith (2 Pet. 1:5-11). Counter your temptations from sinful desires, cravings, and urges by walking in the Spirit.

To live by the Spirit, die with Christ, be buried with Him, and be raised with Him. If you do not do this, then you are not regenerated and none of your attempts to follow Christ will help you. Those who are of Christ crucify the flesh with its passions and desires (Gal. 5:24). You are not saved by grace until you are made alive being raised with Christ (Eph. 2:4-6). Therefore, be conformed to the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ (Phil. 3:9-10). With an obedient faith, a believer is only made alive with Christ through His resurrection by dying to sin and being buried with Christ in baptism to be raised with Christ (Rom. 6:1-7, Col. 2:12-13). Only from baptism is a repentant believer raised into the newness of life. This is the Gospel by which everyone must be saved (1 Cor. 15:1-4, cf. Rom. 1:16). Jesus commanded baptism in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit when He was resurrected (Matt. 28:19, Mark 16:16). This baptism is an immersion in water that has power through Christ’s words, His death, and His resurrection when one dies to oneself, is buried with Christ, and is born again through the resurrection of Christ (1 Pet. 1:3, 3:21, John 3:5, Titus 3:5, cf. Acts 2:38, 10:47-48, 22:16).

Remember that God’s grace teaches the denying of worldly lusts (Titus 2:11-12). The Christian must see God’s grace as more than salvation from past sins, but also as salvation from giving into future temptations. Christ has already forgiven you of the sins that now tempt you. Why do them again (Rom. 6:1)? Christians must see the extent of personal sins, and the loving grace that forgave those sins, so that they truly love God (Luke 7:40-43). Jesus died so that His followers are compelled more by Christ’s love and forgiving grace than by the lusts that entice so many to sin (2 Cor. 5:14-15).

Therefore, learn to set your mind on the Spirit (Rom. 8:5-6). By setting the mind, the Christian must always see through desires and temptations to see that on the other side of temporary pleasure is evil, guilt, regret, devastation, and ruin. A Christian must see that sin is an enslavement (Rom. 6:15-23). Listen to Christ’s Spirit, “For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. What fruit did you have then in the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death” (Rom 6:20-21). What is gained by sin? What is left after temporary pleasure? Jesus said, “Most assuredly, I say to you, whoever commits sin is a slave of sin” (John 8:34). For which Jesus said, “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32).

Remember that evil thoughts and imaginations feed the lusts of the flesh. Wherever you are, start disciplining the mind, and be aware that God sees you and He knows your thoughts. You must set your mind on the Spirit to be spiritually aware above the lusts of the flesh. “[Y]ou must put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind” (Eph. 4:22-23). Romans 8:5-6 states,

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.”

In offering one’s body as a living offering, Romans 12:2 commands, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” You must change your mind and thus your heart (Rom. 1:28, 8:7; Eph. 2:3, 4:17-24; Phil. 3:19, 4:8, Col. 1:12, 2:8, 3:1-5ff; 1 Tim. 6:5; Titus 1:15, 2:11-12; Jas. 1:8, 4:8, 1 Pet. 1:13).

Set your mind by Christ’s words and love. When setting the mind on the Spirit, the Spirit dwells in you (Rom. 8:9-11). The mind must be set upon Christ’s love (John 4:23, Eph. 3:16-17, 1 John 4:7-13). Christ’s love compels us to be crucified with Christ and be alive in Him (2 Cor. 5:14-15, Gal. 2:20, cf. John 15:13). Therefore, believers must set their minds on the love of God. Christians know the love of Christ by Jesus’ selfless sacrifice (1 John 4:9-10). God indwells within Christians when those believers abide in love, because God is love (1 John 4:16). Thus, God’s love has been poured into the hearts of Christians through the Holy Spirit (Rom. 5:5-8). Only by Christ’s sacrifice can anyone really know love and be compelled by love (John 15:13, 1 John 3:16, cf. 1 John 5:1-3). When God indwells by love, Christians gain their strength from the Spirit (Eph. 3:16-19). You must have this love in your heart, and then Christ’s love will compel you to overcome.

Love is the first blessing listed among the fruits of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). True believers increase in that love by abiding in Christ’s words (John 14:21-24). James 1:21 states, “Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls” (cf. Col. 3:16, Eph. 5:18). This is the work of the Spirit to change you through the indwelling of God’s Word (2 Cor. 3:18, Rom. 8:5-6, 11-13). Therefore, think on those things that are truthful, honorable, just, pure, loving, respectful, virtuous, and praiseworthy (Phil 4:8).

Setting your mind on Christ must include prayer. Jesus told His disciples on the night of His betrayal, “Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matt. 26:41, Mark 14:38). Jesus warned His disciples, and yet that night, they all fled when they said that they would not (Mark 14:26-31). As Luke’s Gospel describes, Jesus said, “Pray that you may not enter into temptation” (Luke 22:40, 46). Was Jesus wrong about prayer?! These are not useless words! Would prayer have helped deliver these disciples? Yes, it would. If prayer against temptation was not useful and powerful, why would Jesus have commanded His disciples to pray? What if they would have prayed 3 times that night? Take an example in this to pray constantly (1 Thess. 5:17). Wake up praying against temptation, pray throughout the day, and pray before bed. This minister recommends David’s repentant words in Psalm 51 for prayer. Pray daily for the rest of your life and do this in setting your mind on the Spirit. Christ taught His followers to pray, “Bring us not into temptation” (Matt. 6:13, Luke 11:4).

Set your mind on Christ to make no provision for the flesh to fulfill its lust (Rom. 13:13-14). Set up a perimeter in your life and in your mind. Find a way to stay away from private temptations of secret sins. Remember Solomon’s warning to not go near the street of the adulterous woman at night (Prov. 7). Make no way for private and hidden sins. Romans 13:13-14 states,

“Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

From here, grow in Christ and in His virtues for the rest of your life (2 Pet. 1:4-11). This is a war, and Christians must fight the good fight. “[A]bstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul” (1 Pet. 2:12). Lusts are trying to deceive you (Jas. 1:14-15). The fact of the matter is that doing nothing is not going to aid you in overcoming these sins. Remove the temptation to sin. Jesus said in Matthew 18:9, “And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out, and cast it from you: it is good for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into the hell of fire” (cf. Mark 9:43-48, Matt. 19:12).

Jesus did not give into temptation to overcome temptation. Be diligent to have this mindset always. Remember that when Jesus was tempted that He countered the temptation with a better thought from Scripture rather than trying to ignore the temptation (Luke 4, cf. Matt. 4). God’s grace is through His Word. Do not think that guilt comes from being tempted. Jesus was tempted. You will be tempted by urges and desires to do evil, and you may not be able to make those urges completely go away. You do not have to give into them and hurt yourself by sinning against your own body (1 Cor. 6:18).

Set your mind to know when you feel strong urges and do not give into the urges, then you are killing evil desires in the flesh (Gal. 5:24, Col. 3:5). The temptations can and will eventually diminish although never fully go away. Christ’s compelling love and forgiving grace of past sins will ease and lessen your urges. The urges will weaken. Do not be deceived to believe the lie that urges will keep growing and not stop until giving into sin. “Therefore subordinate to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you” (Jas. 4:7). The Bible teaches that tempting urges can cease naturally. Knowing the path of sin that “each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire” (Jas. 1:14). You can endure the urge without giving into the temptation. Christ’s Spirit says,

“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it” (1 Cor. 10:13).

Enduring temptations will make you happy, and the light of a new day will fill your soul more than any worldly pleasure. For “Blessed [happy] is the man who endures temptation” (Jas. 1:12, cf. 1:4). Fear God, escape, and then endure with prayer. You are able. You do not have to give into the temptation. Giving into temptations will only make temptations worse and increase sin upon sin (Rom. 6:19).

Take up your cross daily and follow Christ (Luke 9:23). After reading this, consider daily the questions of self-reflection and scripture in this post, “How to Overcome Habitual Sins and Addictions through Christ“. Do this with prayer until God has blessed you to overcome your temptations.


- Addendum -

What about God’s forgiveness and grace? What about if we stumble again? Everyone sins and everyone stumbles (Rom. 3:23, Jas 3:2). Feel guilty and let it help change you. Have godly sorrow and fear God since “godly sorrow works repentance unto salvation” (2 Cor. 7:10). You can be forgiven by God’s grace. Jesus taught us to forgive when one confesses repentance 7 times in a day (Luke 17:3-4). Why? Because we are to forgive as God forgives us (Eph. 4:32, Col. 3:13). What if we confess repentance 7 times in a day to God? Therefore, as we walk in the light and confess our sins to the Father, God cleanses us from all sins (1 John 1:7, 9). Let the Word on the heart’s conscience motivate you.

Manage your desires within marriage and, or by other natural emissions. God has provided ways to cope by managing sexual desires. The Scriptures refer to nocturnal emissions and staying clean (Deut. 23:9-14). When Israelite soldiers were single or away from their wives, they were not excused in the circumstances of war to behave in a sexually immoral way by committing adultery, rape, or any other evil. Married men still have to be able to know how to manage themselves at specific times in their marriage. This is what God has naturally provided. God gave further instructions to Israelite men to live with a way to control themselves (Lev. 15:1-17). Women also have a similar natural function, and they have the same task to maintain self-control. Realizing this should encourage you to rely on God’s ways rather than yours and help you with desires you may think you cannot control. No one has to submit to the world’s ways of addressing these desires by giving into lust.

Respecting marriage is vital. Just the simple conviction that sex is an act of love meant only for your spouse greatly changes how one’s desires are directed. You have to honor marriage by respecting the marriage bed even if you are not married. A single person can be guilty of defiling the marriage bed and engaging immoral sexual behavior. This is clear by the reference to fornication in Hebrews 13:4, which says, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Marital issues of intimacy need to be resolved by both those married and not married (1 Cor. 7:1-9). Marital affections are due to each spouse. “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband” (1 Cor. 7:3). “Do not deprive one another” (1 Cor. 7:5). Why? “Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband” (1 Cor. 7:2). “[I]f they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1 Cor. 7:9). Husbands and wives must be very acreful not deprive their spouses.

Men need to understand that a Scriptural marriage means loving his wife by honoring and nourishing her with a tender and warm affection (Greek: thalpo) (1 Pet. 3:7, Eph. 5:28-29). He must do this with understanding and without bitterness (Col. 3:19, 1 Pet. 3:7). Likewise, women must also recognize that God’s ideal for marriage is for a wife to love and respect her husband by subordinating as is fitting to the Lord (Eph. 5:22, 33, Col. 3:18, Titus 2:4, 1 Pet. 3:1). Desire for the opposite sex is designed for marriage and all other desires outside of marriage are perversions. This desire of the flesh can only be controlled by using it properly within love. This is all vitally important in understanding marriage and honoring the marriage bed.

What about unnatural desires? If you have unnatural desires like homosexual desires and other forms of paraphilia, these are lusts and temptations given to people, who are not recognizing the true God, glorifying Him, and thanking Him (Rom. 1:18-27). Therefore, recognize that God made you in your specific gender and He made you in His image. This is true even if God has made you are eunuch (Matt. 19:11). Thank God and glorify Him for the traits of your gender. Grow and be strong in the natural qualities of your God-given gender. If you are a man, live as a man and enjoy that life and put away any femininity and your natural desires can be restored. If you are a woman, be feminine and womanly by putting away any masculine tendencies. While you still may be tempted, listen to Jesus and be committed even to be a eunuch for the kingdom of heaven’s sake (Matt. 19:12). God made man and woman to be together in marriage, and all desires outside of this are outside of God’s will.

May God bless those who read this. Your comments are questions are always welcome.


- More about Making No Provision for the Flesh -

(A) How to avoid pornography? Starting with the internet, TV, and magazines. Pornography is probably the most common sin of Christian men. Having the internet is like having a stack of pornographic magazines under one’s bed. The temptation is always there. This is like the street of the adulterous woman as Solomon instructs not to go near (Prov. 7). The street of the adulterous and strange woman can be the internet or television, so don’t let her street end at your house. Many find it easy to control their hands from exchanging money for pornographic magazines, but struggle to restrain themselves when thinking they are anonymous online. Your deepest conviction must be that this is an evil thing, sexually immoral, and for the married man, it is adultery in the heart.

Get rid of any saved sexual material. Get rid of the bad cable channels or get rid of cable TV all together. Put the computer in a common room with 2 or 3 filters and maybe use accountability software if you want. This is good to protect children. Regarding internet filters, OpenDNS and Family Safety are excellent and free. The Family Safety also provides a curfew to restrict certain times of temptation, which should be used to make no provision for the flesh. This will not always prevent temptation. Even though sin may be hindered, this will not stop one from going back into this sin. You are going to have to gain self-control.

(B) How to maintain purity when dating and engaged? Remember “make not provision for the flesh” (Rom. 13:14). Only date someone who you would marry and when you decide otherwise while dating then cease the romantic relationship. Double dates and meeting in public places is the best if not the only way to date, but there is something else that can make it easier. Draw a line to not cross. Where should you draw the line?

Physical relationships between a man and woman progress. The progression of affection is a part of how God has designed man and woman. The usual physical progression of a relationship usually looks like this: an arm around shoulder, holding hands, kissing, passionate kissing, petting, taking off clothing, stimulation, and intercourse. Of this progression, when does one quit thinking clearly? Most would point to passionate kissing. At passionate kissing, rational thinking is often thrown away as the couple becomes “love-drunk”. You can prevent the progression into sin by avoiding passionate kissing.

It can be extremely tempting for some couples to be alone for even an hour. Sexual desires reach a point of sexual intoxication when one cannot think clearly. Try talking sense into someone who is drunk. How can sensual drunkenness be prevented? We must keep from the passion of lust. What triggers sexual passion and intoxication? Decide and know exactly when to stop along the progression and let your date know too. If your date passes this point, separate from that person for some time.

(C) How to maintain affections within my marriage? First Corinthians 7:2 states, “But, because of fornications, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.” Here is an answer to sexual desire. Marriage certainly makes it easier. Now, temptations can arise from not fulfilling marital affections. A successful marriage based on rendering what is due (1 Cor. 7:1ff) and obeying Ephesians 5:23-31 will usually prevent these sexual sins. Now and all the time, “make not provision of the flesh” (Rom. 13:14). Do not privately meet with anyone of the opposite sex that you are attracted to or could be. Temptations for adultery are increased by the lack of attention, affection, and admiration from the other spouse. A little attention, affection, and admiration from someone else welcomes an affair, and a little attention, affection, and admiration toward your spouse pushes such temptations away.

About Scott Shifferd Jr.

Minister, Dean Road church of Christ in Jacksonville, FL. Husband and father of four. Email: ScottJon82[at]yahoo.com
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551 Responses to How to Prevent and Overcome Sexual Sins

  1. ella says:

    I found myself in a situation I never expected,I a married lady,got married as a virgin but I fell in the sin of having sex with another person,in the process I realize my self and worked away but since then I have been feeling guilty. If my partner knows,he will end of our marriage relationship..my husband was cheating on me and I was soon depressed and weak about the whole thing and I found my self too in the middle of all this,i have prayed for forgiveness of sin but I till fill very guilty,can God forgive me even if I don’t confess to my partner?i won’t go bck to it again by the Grace of God.

    • The Bible says walk in the light and confess your sins to God the Father, and then you will be forgiven of your all sins (1 Jn 1.5-10). That should tell you all about your forgiveness. I do not know any other scripture other than James 5.15-16 that teaches confessing to one another. I would encourage to pray to God for wisdom to know how to address this.

      • I agree that we must trust and God God enough that we are not held boundage by sin. If you confess your sins , he is faithful and will forgive. As a person who sin through sex within my marriage with another, I could not be free until i confessed to my wife and it’s been 20 years and we are happier than ever because of our willingness to walk in the light.

  2. drayzers says:

    Me and my girlfriend use to have intercourse back in earlier this year. But that all changed when she got lead to Christ and wanted stop having sex. Of course I was stubborn and upset about it. I kept having urges and masturbating to kill my urges out of respect for her and her wishes. But then some were deep down inside me something was changing when I had witnessed what god was doing for her in her life. So I finally gave myself up My life to Christ and stop masturbating for a month. Then the urges came back again but it wasn’t her this time. She wasnt doing anything to provoke my sexual desires at all. I was looking at porn on the internet again and nude images. I was try my best to resist but I wasn’t praying hard enough. I felt ashamed and i thought i was strong enough to stop it. But with in the month of September. I sat down with God and I prayed really hard that he would deliver me from my sin. And he has, I have not masturbated in 2 weeks now. I stop looking at porn and stuff. Since I got saved again I been looking to gods word to and ask the spirit to deliver from the temptation of my flesh everyday. I have urges now and then but I became stead fast in prayer and pray to God for deliverance and deny my flesh. My and my girlfriend are happily follow Christ together and praying and supporting one another in our walk with God and fighting temptations.

    • Thank you for this positive encouragement. I hope we all follow such examples. It would be wonderful if everyone could be saved in the midst of their great temptations, so to always know His strength in them to overcome.

  3. Francis Amankwaah Adusei says:

    I have had sex with so many ladies which am not proud of. Am ashamed of myself and I can’t stop it. I don’t know what’s going on with me. I want to stop and I need your help. Please help me.

    • I presume you are not married. See my article about overcoming addictions to set your mind on Christ and His sanctification for your life. Start there.

      Next, you must remove yourself from the temptations whether at bars, at work, or online. Consider Romans 13:13-14. More later…

      • Lastly, you must bear the temptations, the urges, etc. Note 1 Corinthians 10:12-13. This may be the hardest part. This may be like a drug addict detoxing. This calls for much prayer. God bless and comment any time. You have my prayer.

  4. Dmitry Mack says:

    I’ve been dating my gf for over a year. We want to get married. We’ve both been raised in Christian families and are strongly against pre marital sex. Everything has been going well until just recently, I’ve been getting extremely strong urges. We Haven’t had sex, but definitely Had a few slip ups. And it’s taken an impact on my spiritual well being. I feel I got weaker and the desires are getting stronger but it’s only getting harder to battle this struggle. If I had chance I’d get married to avoid sexual immorality but financially I’m not ready yet. But I’m in love w her and I can’t just disappear. I’m 25 and it’s just been a real struggle to hang in there. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

    • Hi Dmitry,

      A Christian man finding a Christian woman is a good thing. Your struggle is a common one. The answer is to make no provisions for the flesh (Ro 13.13-14). Now is the time to show your spiritual leadership. Draw some lines, and set boundaries that you are not alone together to be tempted. You should be attracted to your future wife. This should be like not seeing your wife on your wedding day. To stay committed, pray to God, and pray with your girlfriend.

      God bless you both. You have my prayer.

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